Molly Sue’s Blog

Have you ever been with someone and all they did was complain about the things you did? You could never do anything right; even if you put your heart into it, they still didn’t think it was good enough. When in reality, your only intentions were to make them happy but the end result turned into a “temporary insecurity”.   

Sometimes as women we are conditioned to make men happy even if we are not happy with ourselves for doing it.  Sound sad huh? But these are things we do to make the men we love happy even when he puts up a big fuss about how long it took or it just wasn’t good enough. 

I should know I was one of those females who would try my hardest to make someone happy and I would put my heart into it, making sure everything was perfect but to them it was a big waste of time.  As the relationship progress, my hard work turned into a “temporary insecurities”.  I started to think everything I did was not up to par; I didn’t feel confident in myself when I did things even if it was something he needed I still had in the back of my head those insecurities telling me I was not good enough.

Those temporary insecurities ate at me and made my life miserable! So finally one day I gained enough courage and walked away from all the expectations and standards and told the guy to shove it up his a%$!

I dropped him like a bad habit and I dropped those temporary insecurities because it wasn’t me, it was him who was not happy with himself.  He would bring me down because he was not happy in his life.  Everything I did for him was not good enough because he couldn’t do the same for me.  So if it was not on his level then it wasn’t good enough for him. Understand?

So now ladies when you start doing things for a man and it’s not making you happy please re-evaluate your self-worth and look at his situation.  Analyze his actions and way of thinking, if he is selfish, you don’t need him, if he acts childish, you don’t need him, if he doesn’t take the effort to make you happy for all of your hard work, then honey you definitely don’t need him. You know why, because everything will always be about him and the only way to fix someone like that is to drop them when they least expect it.  Because when you’re gone they can’t take advantage of you or make you feel like crap when your only intentions were to make them happy.

So drop those “temporary insecurities” and embrace someone that’s much better than your ex. To be honest, it doesn’t take long to get over the insecurities because they were only temporary.